If someone you know comes out as lesbian, gay or bi, you may not know how to react, especially if you don’t know any other LGB people and you don’t understand why they might be this way. Try to remember that it is a big step for them to have told you this and they probably expect you to be supportive and keep it confidential for the time being so that they can tell other people at their own pace. If you have any questions, it is best to just ask them. The reason they’ve told you will also be that they want you to know them better, so asking questions helps. They might not be able to answer them themselves if they are not ready.

Remember also, that while they have had much time to think about this new part of their identity, they know that you haven’t. They should respect that it may take time for you to come to terms with this and in turn you should make them feel comfortable around you even if you haven’t yet got the grasps of this new part of their identity. Given time, them coming out to you should strengthen your relationship as you’ll be able to be more open and honest with each other. Remember also, that many LGB have to put with discrimination, so it is important for them to have support in a friend.